For women this comes natural....we are designed to be emotional creatures and expressing genuine concern for friends or family is easier for us to do than our male counterparts. Sometimes women want to save the world one concern to the next...we can't!
Men, just the opposite...you guys are just happy minding your own business. You may have some genuine concern for a friend however, once you've asked him about it and he says, "Everything's fine." you nod and that's a good enough answer for you.
Where is the happy medium? Saving the world or dropping a real issue to fast? Obviously with each person it's different. With your child...save the world....with your Facebook friend it will be mention it once. Sometimes we may feel like we are butting into people's lives by expressing concern, however, sometimes people are wanting and needing for someone to just open the door.
Today's Challenge: If you feel like you have a friend in need-examine the relationship and be BOLD! Express concern. Let them know you are here if they want to talk or need anything. Maybe you should send some flowers or a note just to say you are thinking about them. Don't let the fear of rejection or humiliation stand in your way of expressing genuine concern.
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